I saved the most important step for last. Over the course of your lifetime this final step will have more of an impact on
your health than any of the previous 5 steps, and if you follow the advice in this chapter just watching a stranger cross
the street could make you laugh more than a 2 hour movie that was designed to make you laugh, and it will be so
difficult for anyone to effect your mood in a negative way that even if there was a world wide great depression going on
you could be completely immune to it. So without further ado below are some personal tips that I have learned over the
years that have allowed me to become a person who is "easily amused and impossible to offend"...
1. BE YOUNG AT HEART
The Average Child The Average Adult
One time a man who was in his 50's said to me, "I don't know what to get my dad for "Father's Day"... He's so old that he
So what happens to people as they get older that causes them to become so serious and unhappy? And why is it that
babies so "easily amused" that just making a silly face at them (or as some YouTube Videos have shown just taking a
piece of paper and ripping it in-front of them) can make them laugh and laugh and laugh?
The truth is that a lot of adults will purposely hold back smiles and laughter during certain situations out of fear of
seeming "childish", or they will be too afraid to ask questions that are on their mind because they worry that asking lots
of questions the way that a child does will make them seem less intelligent, so I would encourage you to start catching
yourself whenever you feel the urge to hold back a smile, a laugh, or a question for these reasons and to simply start
smiling, laughing, and asking questions whenever you feel the natural urge to do so.
When I find myself in a room full of adults who are all complaining about the high gas prices or who are depressed
because someone died I am like a new born baby who is too young to understand what everyone is talking about, and I
wonder why everyone around me is so unhappy. To me life is a joke, and a good one at that, and although I have no
idea how or when I will die I intend to go out laughing!
2. LEARN ABOUT THE VERY BIG AND THE VERY SMALL
It's amazing to me to look at things that we can only see through a microscope as well as things that we can only see
through a telescope and to know that we're somewhere in the middle of it all. When I look at the pictures above I can
see a lot of the same creative patterns in both of them, and when I look at natural scenery that I can see with my natural
eye sight (Such as a herd of zebras drinking from a lake.) I see the exact same creative pattern in them as well.
What does all of this have to do with our attitudes? The more that you look through a telescope and realize just how big
and complex the universe is the more you realize just how small and insignificant you and all of your problems really are,
and the more you look through a microscope and learn about the microscopic world (especially in your own body) the
more you realize just how big and incredible you are...
"Wisdom is knowing that I am nothing. Love is knowing that I am everything. And in between the two, my life flows."
- Nisargadatta Maharaj
3. LET GO OF ATTACHMENTS
Being "attached" to something means that you will feel immobilized without it. How did you react the last time the
electricity went off in your house? Did you become upset the instant it went out? And did you feel that until the
electricity came back on there was nothing you could do?
You were born with no possessions and you can't take any of your possessions with you when you die, (including your
body) so the most freeing experience that you can have in life is to let go of the feeling of attachment that you have to
the people, the possessions, and the circumstances in your life now while you are still alive so you can spend the rest of
your life free from the fear of losing them and be accepting of the fact that nothing stays the same forever.
Many wise people have said that all of the suffering that we experience in life is the result of the attachments that we
have, and what I would encourage you to do is to start letting go of the feeling of "ownership" over the things in your life,
because the more possessive you are over things the more offended you will get if something happens to them. (If you
hear a story about someone that you don't know getting their car stolen it probably won't bother you that much, but if
someone steals "YOUR" car it will probably be a very big deal to you and the amount of stress and anxiety that you go
through when it happens will be in direct proportion to how attached you feel to the car.
4. BEWARE OF BUILDING AN IDENTITY AS A "CHRONIC COMPLAINER"
Imagine that a man dislikes the president of his country so much that he goes on TV talk shows and complains about
how foolish and irresponsible he thinks the president is, and that he also wrote a book about how terrible he thinks the
president is, and that he even has a website where he sells T-shirts, bumper stickers, and coffee mugs that have
negative slogans about the president on them... The question that I have is if a person has built such a strong
reputation of being a person who criticizes the president what are the odds that they would actually want to see the
president do something great that made everyone happy? And how likely is it that deep down the critic WANTS the
president to continue to fumble and make poor choices in order to make people agree with him?
Realize that the more time and energy that you "invest" on trying to convince others about how bad your boss, your
ex-lover, or someone else in your life is the more that they will become a person that you "love to hate" and the more
that you will want to protect your "investment" by continuing to find evidence to show that you have been right about that
person all along.
Catch yourself anytime that you are about to complain about something or someone, and then ask yourself the simple
question, "Is there anything that I can do to fix the problem that I am about to complain about?" If the answer is "Yes"
then why not do something about it rather than complain about it? And if the answer is "No" it makes no sense to
complain about it because you have already established that there is nothing that you can do to about it and
complaining will only make things worse.
5. IMITATE PEOPLE
There are few things that are more powerful and healing than imitating others in a funny way. (When I say to "imitate
people" I don't mean to make fun of them in a cruel way, I simply mean to learn how to walk, talk, and act like friends,
family, co-workers, etc, and just have fun with it when they aren't around.)
Think about it, even if a person hates George W. Bush with a passion and they get angry every time they see him on TV
giving a speech, they will laugh hysterically if they turn on "Saturday Night Live" and see someone who is dressed up
just like George W. Bush and has his voice and mannerisms down perfect, because there is just something about a
really good imitation of someone that makes people laugh and feel good in a unique way, and the healing power of this
can be unbelievable.
Unfortunately most people only imitate people that they don't like and rather than doing a realistic impression of them
they simply talk in a dumbed-down voice to "mock" the person. This certainly isn't what I am promoting here.
If you have a stressful job imitating co-workers can provide an enormous amount of "comic relief" for yourself and
everyone you work with. (If you have co-workers who stand way too close to you when they talk, or who swear a lot, or
who are habitual liars, or who constantly talk about their dog please realize that they can be your greatest source of
amusement while at work if you see the humor in them the way that a television audience would if they were characters
on a sit-com.)
I refer to the 12 years that I spent in public school as "Acting School" because the one thing that I truly learned during
those years was how to imitate the teachers and students that I went to school with, and I now talk in other people's
voices more than I do my real voice.
6. REALIZE THAT NOBODY CAN OFFEND YOU WITHOUT YOUR PERMISSION
If someone criticizes you about something (the way you talk, the way you walk, the way you dress, etc) it is ultimately
your choice whether you get offended about it, laugh about it, or simply ignore it. (Just as a film maker who wants to use
a well known song in their movie must first get permission from the artist, a person who wants to offend you must first get
your permission in order to do so.)
TO BE CONTINUED...
I hope that you have enjoyed visiting my website. I will add more pictures, videos,
and information to this site as my health journey continues. If any of the things that I
have shared on this site has been helpful to you please pass it along to others, and
feel free to contact me if you have further questions about what I have shared here.
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